LOS ANGELES PACIFIC UNIVERSITY Home Dashboard My courses Helps APU Library Tech Support !!! ୪ Q 3 INSTRUCTIONS 1. Read Chapters 5, 6, and Appendix A from The DNA of Relationships for Couples. 2. Answer the two questions (Smalley and Paul, 2006, Appendix A) posed in Appendix A (the questions are taken directly from the text): • Describe a recent conflict or negative situation with your spouse or someone else you are in a relationship with – something that really "pushed your buttons". Choose the same person you are using for the "Caring Day" activity. • What were the buttons that got pushed during the conflict? Another way to look at it is, How did what happened during the conflict make you feel about yourself? What did the conflict say about you? What was the message it sent to you? • Look through the following options and use them to fill in the blanks in the statement: "As a result of this conflict, I felt or feared feeling Q Search or I thought Activities Assignments Forums Learning Extras Resources c. ? 67° O a + 6:26 PM 3/17/2024 PRE LOS ANGELES PACIFIC 3 UNIVERSITY Home Dashboard My courses or feared feeling would happen”. Helps APU Library Tech Support or I thought Q !!! 3. Complete the Fear Dance worksheet (opens in a new window). • On page 1, mark an “X” for your responses and mark an “O” for how you believe the other person in your conflict/relationship would respond. • On page 2, input the top three for: 。 What did you feel (these are your "buttons")? 。 What did you want? 。 What do I do (reaction)? • Then input the same information for what you chose for the other identified person in the conflict. 4. After completing the Fear Dance diagram, respond to the following questions. Each response should be one paragraph (5+ sentences) in length. • Explain how the Fear Dance diagram helps to understand your own core fears/buttons? Q Search Activities Assignments Forums Learning Extras Resources ? C. 67° a + 6:27 PM 3/17/2024 PRE 0 LOS ANGELES PACIFIC UNIVERSITY Home Dashboard My courses C. ? Helps APU Library Tech Support • We can learn to end the Fear Dance by managing our own personal fears/buttons. We can tap into our self-responsibility and learn to use our thinking and actions to interrupt the dance. Describe what you can do to interrupt the Fear Dance in your relationship. How can you protect your "buttons" and identify when your fear "buttons" have been pushed? • What will be the benefits to you and your relationship when you start managing your own personal fears/buttons better. 5. Submit the Fear Dance worksheet and your written paper before the deadline. REQUIREMENTS • Completed Fear Dance Worksheet • Written paper that addresses: 。 Questions from the readings o Reflection of the impact of the Fear Dance activity Activities ୪ Q 3 Assignments Forums Learning Extras Resources !!! 67° Q Search + a 6:27 PM 3/17/2024 PRE