/n5) Styles: a) What individual styles did each party use? Use the five-style, dual-concern description of styles. b) From an external perspective, what were the advantages and disadvantages of each style within this particular conflict? 6) Conflict and emotions: a) Choose several emotions that the parties have expressed in this conflict. What are the functions of these emotions? How are they mitigated or moderated? Use the circumplex model to describe the emotions. b) What emotions are seldom expressed? What is the result? 7) Analyzing interactions and overall patterns: a) What system dynamics characterize this conflict? b) What rules of repetitive patterns characterize this conflict? 8) Attempted solutions: a) What options have been explored for managing the conflict? b) Have attempted solutions become part of the problem? c) Can you identify categories of solutions that have not been tried? 9) Forgiveness and reconciliation: a) In this conflict, are parties working toward forgiveness or reconciliation? Clearly state which in terms of the chapter's information on the difference between the two. b) In what way is your situation calling for intrapersonal or interpersonal forgiveness, or both?/nPersonal Conflict Assessment Guide Assignment This assignment you will analyze a personal conflict using a short version of the conflict assessment guide from Hocker Chapter 7 pp 250-255. You do not have to answer all the question in the Hocker guide (which is quite long), but you should answer the specific questions indicated for each section outlined below. You want to present your personal conflict in such a way that it provides a clear picture for a third party (in this case, me) to understand the conflict from an objective point of view. What would an outside observer need to know to understand this conflict? This means that it should not be one-sided complaint about another person, but an honest and thorough analysis that could help you in resolving the conflict. You might need to get the insights of others familiar with the situation if you have a hard time with some of the sections. But outside perspective is not required. This is an analysis, which requires following the guides and models that we have covered in the text and in class. As you write your paper, include relevant ideas and concepts from the text and class. To make things easier, please organize your paper with each section and identify the questions being answered. The length of the paper should be about 3 pages, single spaced (but this is just a general guideline, it could be slightly longer). A couple of sentences for each question is adequate as long as you provide clear responses. Thus, the paper does not need to be very long (please no 10-page essays!). Also, do not use bullet points in your answers, they should be written out. Please let me know if you have any questions. Here are the sections and required questions for the assignment: 1) Nature of the conflict: a) In a short paragraph, describe the conflict-be as objective as you can. b) What are the "triggering events" that brought this conflict into mutual awareness? c) What is the historical context of this conflict in terms of (1) the ongoing relationship between the parties and (2) other, external events within which this conflict is embedded? 2) Orientation to the conflict: a) What attitudes toward conflict do participants seem to hold? b) Do they perceive conflict as positive, negative, or neutral? How can you tell? 3) Interests and goals: a) What does each party think the other's goals are? Are they similar or dissimilar to the perceptions of self-goals? b) What are the topic, relational, identity, and process goals? c) Are the identity and relational issues the "drivers" of this dispute? 4) Power: a) What do the parties see as their own and the other's dependencies on one another? As an external observer, can you classify some dependencies that they do not list? b) What impact does each party's assessment of power have on subsequent choices in the conflict? c) What evidence of destructive "power balancing" occurs?

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